Tired of Being Single? Here Are 9 Reasons Why You Still Haven’t Found Love

Reason #1: You try too hard.

Some people have this belief that they need to work hard for something they want in life. But that’s not always the case when it comes to dating. When you try too hard, you risk looking desperate. And desperation does not look attractive at all. For most women, it can be off-putting and at times scary.

Reason #2: You don’t know what you want.

You need to have standards and goals. When you don’t have them, you risk not going anywhere serious with anyone. You go on multiple dates and enter into a series of relationships only to find out that you’re not compatible.

Reason #3: You chase after girls who don’t want you.

Reality check: She doesn’t want you, so why are you chasing her? No matter how much you push and how much you try your hardest, if a woman is not interested, don’t force her to be.

Reason #4: You’re dating the same type of woman.

How many times have you met a girl who you thought was the one, but just when things get serious, she bails?

Reason #5: You’re too picky.

While it’s ideal to have standards and goals, you also need to make sure that they’re realistic and reasonable. At the same time, be flexible with your criteria.

Reason #6: You still have to work on yourself.

If you want to attract a genuine romantic connection with the right woman, you first need to make sure that you’re emotionally and mentally ready for commitment.

Reason #7: You’re looking for someone to complete you.

You need to realize that you’re already complete. You don’t need to look for your other half. What you need to look for is someone who can make life more enjoyable and worthwhile than it already is.

Reason #8: You’re not putting yourself out there.

Life is not a romantic comedy film where love falls miraculously on your lap. As great as it sounds, that’s now how it works. Finding love requires real effort. You need to put yourself out there. Meet and get to know people, like these guys:

Reason #9: You’re not looking in the right place.

If you’re going to the same bar to meet women every week and still haven’t had any luck, maybe you should look elsewhere. Go to a new place that’s full of new faces. You’ll never know, you might bump into your soulmate.

What Now?

The next logical step is for you to change your approach to finding love. Focus on the things you need to improve. And when you’re confident and ready, you go back to looking again.



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Adrianna Dela Torre

Adrianna Dela Torre

Adrianna is a Professional Matchmaker and Relationship Counselor for latinlovemates.com.