You see stars in her eyes.
Seeing her face sparks joy in your heart.
She makes breathing and living worthwhile.
You know you’re in love.
You’re devoted to her.
You’d sacrifice your life for her.
She’s the only girl you see a future with.
Finally, you realize you want to build a life with her.
So, you ask her to marry you.
Marriage is a big commitment. Sometimes, love is not enough to make it last. Emotions are fleeting; they come and go. Love shouldn’t be the only reason you marry someone. You need to think it through. Go over things and then ask yourself if it’s the next right thing to do.
For love to last, you need to be on the same page as your partner. Asking the right questions before marriage will help set your relationship on the path you want to take.
You need to have the same priorities and life goals to guide the direction of your life.
With that said, below are seven questions to ask Latina women before making any one of them your bride:
1. Where do you want us to live?
It’s paramount that you talk about where you’ll start a life together. Should you move to her country or should she move to yours? Or should you both move to an entirely foreign place?
Weigh the pros and cons. Consider what living in a Latin American country will imply and the other way around.
Deciding where to live as newlyweds can affect the course of your marriage since one of your lives (or both) will change dramatically. Either (or both) of you will have to totally unroot and start over.
Letting go of a career and leaving close friends and family behind are some of the things to consider. It’s going to be a tough discussion. Hence, you need to discuss the matter before getting married.
You don’t want to start a life together while one of you could be feeling resentment towards the other.
2. Do you want children?
Taking care of a little one is a big responsibility. At the same time, it will be one of the most rewarding experiences of a couple’s lives. But not all women want to give birth, let alone raise a child. The same goes for men, minus the labor part.
In a situation where you want kids and she doesn’t, or vice versa, your marriage may not work out.
For some, wanting kids or not wanting them is considered a deal-breaker. So you might as well save yourselves from the pain and disappointment by discussing this issue beforehand.
3. How do you plan on raising our children?
If you do come to a consensus on having kids, you’ll also have to discuss your parenting style. Western parenting is very different from how it’s done in Latin countries. The former is more indulgent, while the latter follows an authoritarian approach.
For example: Spanking as a form of discipline is acceptable in Latin America, while in western households, it’s considered child abuse.
Other aspects of child-rearing worth discussing include religion, manners, language, division of labor, and financial implications.
4. How do we deal with our in-laws?
American in-laws aren’t much of a problem since American culture is individualistic. It’s rare for them to stick their noses in another member’s business or family life. However, we can’t say the same about Latin in-laws.
As they say, “You don’t just marry Latinas, you also marry their family.”
Not all Latin in-laws like to meddle in another family’s matters, but it’s common in their culture to care and extend helping hands to one another. At times, this might be interpreted negatively, but they genuinely mean well.
However, if you’re someone who likes to keep and solve problems within the family, to the exclusion of in-laws, dating a Latina or marrying one might become a difficulty.
5. How will we manage our finances?
We’ve all heard the phrase, “Marriage is a special union between man and woman.”
But does the word union also include the merging of bank accounts between married couples?
There are no existing laws in the US and in Latin countries that require husbands and wives to merge their finances. Instead, the choice is entirely up to them.
You can choose to have a prenuptial agreement or agree to have none and have the default common law property rights instead.
Though discussing money matters with your partner can be awkward, it shouldn’t be neglected. You can’t ignore it, hoping it will work itself out.
Sorting out your finances before marriage plays a huge role in your union’s success. That’s why it’s one of the most important questions to ask before marriage.
6. Are we both satisfied with our intimacy level?
A stale sex life can cause marital distress.
However, it’s unlikely you’ll have this issue with your girl. Since one of the benefits of dating a Latina is that she’s a passionate lover, you know that she’ll definitely bring fire to the relationship.
Intimacy levels between you and her will remain constant so long as both of you put in the effort to keep the fire burning.
Rest assured that your girl will try her best to do so. This is why Latinas are the best wives any man could ask for. Still, it’s best to talk about how you’ll approach staleness in your relationship (if it were to happen).
7. Are we ready to get married?
Lastly, the big question.
Before asking her this, you also need to ask yourself the same thing. What made you decide that she’s the one you want to spend the rest of your life with? If you’re smiling while thinking of answers to this question, there’s no doubt that you’re ready. Hopefully, she feels the same way about you.
Everyone wants a happy marriage. However, for a marriage to be successful, both partners must share the same headspace as to the direction of their relationship. This is why it’s important to ask the above-mentioned fundamental questions.
A strong foundation leads to a long-lasting union.
Before Saying “I Do.”
If you got all the right answers you wanted to hear from your partner, it’s finally time to move on to the next phase — saying your “I do’s.”
To love and to hold.
In sickness and in health.
What’s worth knowing in the end is that you won’t regret marrying Latina women.